One of the key ingredients in doing good mediumship work is the health of the medium coupled with regular and effective meditation and practice. If either of these key attributes are broken or not working well, the mediumship itself suffers or disappears completely.
The act of forming a connection with the Other Side is one that creates considerable strain on the human form and one that demands that the “instrument’ ( that is, the person doing the mediumship ) be in top physical form.
I’ve been away from practicing my mediumship for some time and I’ve committed the sin of letting my physical self go for some time. Much has happened to get from being a pretty good medium to someone out of touch with almost everything.
In fact, this has been going on for some years now. After the death of my father, I experienced, for the first time, grief. Now that is a emotion and a process that most mediums know well since we confront it in our readings in almost every form of grief there is. And yet, at least for me, I had been reading people on the air for three years until my father’s death in 2012 and had NEVER experienced it for myself.
To say that grief is a show-stopper is an understatement. For the first time, I truly realized what it was and how it can stop even the strongest of us in our tracks. And yet, I never felt the need to go to a group to discuss it. For me, it has been a very private thing. I’ve mentioned it in past writings, but it just kept getting worse over time. I finally realized this winter that it needed to be faced down.
I can say this has been the most challenging aspect to my mediumship work that I ever faced. Couple that with a career that was very clearly winding down from 2012 to 2017 and I can say that my work in the field of mediumship ground to a halt as a result of the grief and a slide into an abyss that left me not wishing to exercise, meditate or really do much with the field of mediumship work.
And after nine months of being off work and taking early retirement, I reached a place in early 2018 where I said “No more” and began to turn it around.
I had worked in Corporate America for many years and when that ended due to an extremely unpleasant outsourcing that saw many people I had worked with for decades being cast to the wind and finally, my own career ending, I reached a point where I really didn’t know what to do with myself.
This winter was harder than most since I just gave up and went downhill. I literally did nothing for months. Ultimately, it took a good friend to wake me up to take action that has made all the difference and that awakening made me see that life is much more than an old identity that truly needed to be stripped away.
In all of this burning away of the old self and identity, I began to see a new version of myself emerging. I *still* love mediumship. I am very much a technologist and also love anything to do with my work in outdoor living and bushcrafting. And I realized that this IS my new job.
I knew very much so that I had NO interest in another corporate job or being in a eight to five IT operation that would destroy me rather than help me to advance and it was a relief to realize that I never had to do it again.
Would I do Mediumship as a “job”? No… I do it because I love people. But I have to pay the bills like everyone else on this side and I’ve chosen to devote my talents to writing and demonstration of mediumship as a gift rather than to make dollars at it. I may end up doing telephone readings sometime in the next year or two and that does mean getting a business license and going through all of that process, but for now, just getting back into fighting shape to DO readings is the challenge. That means giving them for free as practice and getting my butt out there and working hard to develop and reclaim my place.
And, to pay the bills? Well – Writing is one of these things I’m up to… I’m writing about mediumship, grief/loss and also a sci-fi trilogy. Couple that with a more conventional set of income earners for me and I’m doing great.
My new “Job” is myself. It will be a journey I document in writing, video and on-the-air over time. I want to write fiction, non-fiction, be my authentic self and even to talk about grief and rebirth and help others going through these challenges to rise again to meet life. As a graduate of Phoenix University, I truly can understand the idea of the Phoenix as a rebirth symbol.
Getting back to my physical condition… It is early March of 2018. I am in week one of my changed diet. I’m close to 70 pounds overweight as of this writing. I’ve opted to use the Atkins Diet to get back to healthy fighting weight and weight training to beef up my conditioning along with mild aerobics. I’ve switched to salad plates as my dinner plates. No more giant portions of food. I think portion control is also a huge aspect of all of this and a salad plate does pretty much hold everything I’m allowed to eat in a very convenient place as a constant reminder of what I am doing.
The plan is to show my progress in a few weeks with weekly photos of my starting weight and condition and also to share weekly videos. And for those who wish to lecture me on their negative view of the Atkins Diet, please don’t. I’ve already benefited from it once before and I had the best blood panels, glucose levels and health I’d ever had. I’ve got the real life experience of it and the people who criticize from their keyboards and armchairs never have tried it in many cases or speak without first-hand knowledge.
Finally, all of my life-rebuild will be coupled with meditation to round out everything. The Spirit needs to be fed and maintained too. I think this multi-front approach will bear immediate and positive fruit over time. I’ll drop posts here to share how it is going with a video message so you are along for the journey.
This Friday, the first video gets filmed and I’ll be talking about a lot of things in life as well. I hope to see many people offer advice and encouragement ;>)